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Why The Male Orgasm Is Not As Simple As Everyone Tries To Tell You

Male sexuality is so often over-simplified. Most think that male sexuality is about cumming – and that’ s pretty much about it. However, this traditional view is so simplified and limiting. I strongly recommend this short article – the author gets what’s possible! A question I often get asked is how to expand sexual sensations. […]

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Risks

I hear from guys concerned about the risks of sexually transmitted infections (sti’s.) Yes, sti’s are real and the risk can very from a minor nuisance to a chronic condition that affects you for the rest of your life. There’s so much wrapped up in any discussion of sti’s since the way we discuss these […]

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I’m Not A Walking Penis (Most of the Time)

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I recently came across this post where the author made a case our culture doesn’t understand the male sex drive. There’s a pernicious myth out there that the male sex drive is unstoppable and irresistible–that once a man is aroused, he literally cannot control his actions.  We tell jokes about “thinking with the other head” and “all the […]

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Am I Good Enough?

One of the most common concerns men have is a variation on “Am I good enough.” This gets reinforced for many of us when younger by our often mistaken notions of what is masculinity. We’re constantly trying to measure up to some, often undefined, ideal. When I was a young boy I clearly got the […]

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What’s Your Pleasure Ceiling?

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Pamela Madsen recently wrote a short post about a client’s pleasure ceiling. I’ve experienced this pleasure ceiling too. I’ve encountered my pleasure ceiling usually around pretty intense body experiences and I consciously realize that I can’t process any more pleasure. There is simply too much going on at the same time and I hit my max. […]

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Sex Magic

So far 2014 has been a year of change. I welcome much of this change, but any change requires destruction and that destruction can make me nervous. As this past week has brought a crescendo of potential changes into my life. I see that these changes have potential to bring a lot of answers to […]

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What Nature Intended

A few weeks ago I decided to begin the process to restore my foreskin. I was cut as an infant and really don’t like that I didn’t have a say in the matter. Yes, it was a different time and infant circumcision was routine in the US then. I certainly don’t fault my parents; they […]

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Measuring Up

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Body Dysmorphia (not liking our own body) is very common in men. There are many parts of the body that we can feel shame around, but penis size is one of, if not the most common concern. A lot of us compare ourselves to images of naked men that we may see often. Most of […]

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The First Time

I remember it vividly – like it was yesterday. I was the summer of 1972 and I was 11 years old. I was already enjoying the sensations from masturbating by this time but hadn’t yet experienced an orgasm and ejaculation. I remember masturbating in the tub and this time it felt very different. The sensations […]

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