The Great Porn Experiment

I’ve been seeing more and more younger men complaining of erection difficulties. This is one of the biggest areas I work with in older men, but it’s unusual in younger (< 35) men. As I speak with these younger guys a pattern has definitely emerged. Every single one of these younger guys is an avid […]


After a time of considerable personal reflection I’ve realized that it’s time for another chapter to close in my life and for a new chapter to open. I will be moving from San Francisco to Las Vegas. On a practical level, I will be splitting my time over the next few months between San Francisco […]


My boy recently moved to a new city and is going through all the expected challenges in adapting to a new location. In addition, we’ve been separated more than usual over the last few weeks and, while the distance has brought us closer, it’s also added some challenges. Like a good Daddy, I want to […]

What’s Your Pleasure Ceiling?

Pamela Madsen recently wrote a short post about a client’s pleasure ceiling. I’ve experienced this pleasure ceiling too. I’ve encountered my pleasure ceiling usually around pretty intense body experiences and I consciously realize that I can’t process any more pleasure. There is simply too much going on at the same time and I hit my max. […]

Sex Magic

So far 2014 has been a year of change. I welcome much of this change, but any change requires destruction and that destruction can make me nervous. As this past week has brought a crescendo of potential changes into my life. I see that these changes have potential to bring a lot of answers to […]

Valentine’s Day

So Valentine’s day is Friday. This holiday is usually associated with romantic love or bloody massacres (or both!) I’m kinda a romantic at heart. I love the support, smooching, touching and physical and emotional intimacy that romantic love can provide. I’m also aware that romantic love is culturally loaded and full of unrealistic expectations. Valentine’s […]

seeded mirror


It’s been a particularly challenging week and I realized that I needed an evening to be in my body and let go of my mental noise. I made a date with myself for the evening. I’ve found that I need to schedule time for myself lately; yes, it’s a strange feeling for me to schedule […]

What Nature Intended

A few weeks ago I decided to begin the process to restore my foreskin. I was cut as an infant and really don’t like that I didn’t have a say in the matter. Yes, it was a different time and infant circumcision was routine in the US then. I certainly don’t fault my parents; they […]

Alternate Realities

”If you don’t think that human beings are hard-wired to seek altered states of consciousness, just watch a group of children spinning around in circles and falling to the ground.” I don’t remember where I first read this, but it’s so true. I remember back in fourth grade when we would play spinning and hold […]

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