The Great Porn Experiment

I’ve been seeing more and more younger men complaining of erection difficulties. This is one of the biggest areas I work with in older men, but it’s unusual in younger (< 35) men. As I speak with these younger guys a pattern has definitely emerged. Every single one of these younger guys is an avid […]

Transitions

After a time of considerable personal reflection I’ve realized that it’s time for another chapter to close in my life and for a new chapter to open. I will be moving from San Francisco to Las Vegas. On a practical level, I will be splitting my time over the next few months between San Francisco […]

Ritual

My boy recently moved to a new city and is going through all the expected challenges in adapting to a new location. In addition, we’ve been separated more than usual over the last few weeks and, while the distance has brought us closer, it’s also added some challenges. Like a good Daddy, I want to […]

What’s Your Pleasure Ceiling?

Pamela Madsen recently wrote a short post about a client’s pleasure ceiling. I’ve experienced this pleasure ceiling too. I’ve encountered my pleasure ceiling usually around pretty intense body experiences and I consciously realize that I can’t process any more pleasure. There is simply too much going on at the same time and I hit my max. […]

Sex Magic

So far 2014 has been a year of change. I welcome much of this change, but any change requires destruction and that destruction can make me nervous. As this past week has brought a crescendo of potential changes into my life. I see that these changes have potential to bring a lot of answers to […]

Valentine’s Day

So Valentine’s day is Friday. This holiday is usually associated with romantic love or bloody massacres (or both!) I’m kinda a romantic at heart. I love the support, smooching, touching and physical and emotional intimacy that romantic love can provide. I’m also aware that romantic love is culturally loaded and full of unrealistic expectations. Valentine’s […]

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Reboot

It’s been a particularly challenging week and I realized that I needed an evening to be in my body and let go of my mental noise. I made a date with myself for the evening. I’ve found that I need to schedule time for myself lately; yes, it’s a strange feeling for me to schedule […]

What Nature Intended

A few weeks ago I decided to begin the process to restore my foreskin. I was cut as an infant and really don’t like that I didn’t have a say in the matter. Yes, it was a different time and infant circumcision was routine in the US then. I certainly don’t fault my parents; they […]

Alternate Realities

”If you don’t think that human beings are hard-wired to seek altered states of consciousness, just watch a group of children spinning around in circles and falling to the ground.” I don’t remember where I first read this, but it’s so true. I remember back in fourth grade when we would play spinning and hold […]

Genital Shame

Junk. What did that term become popular? I’m sorry but neither my penis, my balls nor even my asshole is junk. Culturally we seem to have three primary ways of referring to our genitals: clinical, vulgar or cute. I really don’t like any of these but I’ve settled on clinical. Cute terms are just too […]

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