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Masturbation Retreat Coming May 2017

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Imagine spending a weekend in a beautiful secluded retreat setting in Northern California – enjoying the fresh air, the tall trees, the inviting pond, the sun, and the stars. Now imagine that you are part of a community of erotic explorers committed to helping each other find fulfillment in their own solo pleasure practice. Top […]

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Acceptance

Since most of us struggle with periods of self-hatred, bad body images, shame and confusion over sex and pleasure, I recommend having a hot love affair with yourself. Sexual healing begins by learning how to turn yourself on, discovering your sexual fantasies, and giving yourself an abundance of selflove and orgasms. Betty Dodson Gay men […]

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Gooning

As I learned to keep edging, I discovered a new sensation while bating. I came to find it called gooning and I describe it as a state where my head goes quiet and all I’m aware of is raw, primal sensation. Words no longer have any meaning; instead, my sounds become animalistic – moans, grunts, […]

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What’s Love got to do with it?

I’m in the midst of NRE (new relationship energy!) We’re 3 months into it and at that point where we’ve established mutuality; we’re really enjoying each others’ company and mutual exploration. I’m also happy that I’m seeing that I’ve actually matured a bit and have learned a thing or two that’s helping with all this […]

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Masturbation & Relationships

Many people think that masturbation is a substitute for partnered sex. I see men who feel as if they need to hide their masturbation from their partners. We spend a lifetime hiding masturbation from others – parents, roommates, partners. For me, it’s not an or, it’s an and. Partnered sex is a way of connecting with […]

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Masturbation as Ritual

I look at masturbation not as something to do; rather, I look at it as a practice. It’s a way to temporarily shut off the world and focus entirely on me and my connection with myself. There’s nothing else I can do to feel as alive, joyful, and grounded as when I am masturbating. I […]

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Circle of Intimates

One of the big secrets of gay marriage for me has been the issue of monogamy. Gay marriage was achieved through many levels but one of those arguments was that we’re just like everyone else and deserve to have our white picket fenced house and happily monogamous relationship. I certainly don’t want to detract from […]

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Online Dating

I’ve recently had several conversations with guys looking to get back in the dating pool again after a long absence. The conversation invariably turns toward online dating. While we can bemoan the rise of online dating and the decline of flirting, the reality is that online dating is here and not going away so we […]

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Heading Home

As I reflect on my experiences at Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit several themes come up. First I’m feeling grateful for being welcomed into an amazing group of sex and embodiment educators. I’m feeling very comfortable and humbled that my session was very well received; the positive comments continued throughout the summit. I’m more aware of […]

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Why The Male Orgasm Is Not As Simple As Everyone Tries To Tell You

Male sexuality is so often over-simplified. Most think that male sexuality is about cumming – and that’ s pretty much about it. However, this traditional view is so simplified and limiting. I strongly recommend this short article – the author gets what’s possible! A question I often get asked is how to expand sexual sensations. […]

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