Video Learning

Slow Erotic Self Massage

The most common area I help men with around our masturbation practice is learning how to slow down. We’re conditioned to go fast and furious. We learn this when we’re younger and many of us keep with this same speed throughout the years.

Slowing down is one of the simplest things we can do to enhance our pleasure. I made a video several years ago to show a masturbation technique that’s all about slowing down and savoring. I’m not even hard during most of this and I don’t cum. However, I do raise my erotic pleasure to amazing levels!

I recently decided to put this video on the site to show all men an alternative way of masturbation. There is no right or wrong way to masturbate; rather, there are many possibilities and I think it’s important to explore all the possibilities. Sometimes I like it fast – other time I prefer to take is slow. Here’s an example of going slow.

Erotic Trance

Every man is capable of inducing erotic trance states without any drugs. Erotic trance is the state where you are so aware of your erotic energy that everything else fades away. The noisy mind is quiet and your only focus is on what you’re feeling. There’s no magic to accessing erotic trance, but it does take some practice. I’ve found that mindful masturbation is an excellent way to access erotic trance.

I’ve included this page on Erotic Trance with a short video of myself in a solo erotic trance.


Most men generate sexual energy in the genitals and it flows outward from there. This is in contract from what I’ve noticed in women from the energy begins throughout the body and then becomes concentrated in the genitals. Many men don’t move our bodies when we masturbate. Our body stays still while our arm and hand move. We often need to move the body to get the energy flowing all over.

Fisting Experiences

Fisting in porn is often portrayed as an aggressive and sometimes violent activity. In actuality, it’s a very gentle and caring act that requires a lot of connection and trust.

I’m blessed to have many friends in my life – and even more blessed that I’m able to have fun playing with some of my friends. Chuck is not only a great friend, he’s also like a father figure to me. There’s something magical when I surrender my hole to him. I”m offering these three videos to share my experiences around fisting and, hopefully, convey why I find it such a profound experience.

I’ve developed a series of explicit educational videos for The New School of Erotic Touch showing men ways to access profound erotic states through a solo practice. Most men masturbate in fifteen minutes or less. Keep going beyond the first fifteen minutes and see the erotic trance states that await you. Fully wake up your body and breathe to invite transformative trance states. Let go of your inner critic that edits us. Be authentic and let go of being judged because the judge gets in the way of pleasure. I invite you to explore these and other videos from the New School.

Educate your hands and your heart with the New School of Erotic Touch. The New School currently offers eighteen different erotic massage and sex education classes. As you experience one or more of these classes, you may wish to contact me for phone coaching or for private massage sessions. As a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, I am personally trained in all of the techniques offered in these video classes and am happy to help deepen your video learning.

Fire on the Mountain

Male Genital Massage
is the ultimate hand job lesson, These video lesson provide live-action instruction on how to pleasure a man’s penis. Learn the joys of giving and receiving a genital massage that often leads to a spiritual and transformative full-bodied orgasm. The difference between a hand job and this Erotic Massage is the difference between banging on a piano and playing Mozart.
Best of Penis Massage The Best of Penis Massageis the result of twenty-five years of research on how to eroticize the whole body by stimulating the genitals.This stimulating collection of footage from eight DVDs offers the full spectrum of male genital massage: lovemaking with a partner, selfloving, erotic initiation, sex coaching, exploring altered states, and good old-fashioned pleasuring. Enjoy the playfulness and creativity of men and women liberated from sexual habit.

Anal Massage 2

Anal Massage on a Man
explores the pleasures of anal eroticism, including how to contact the male G spot. Learn the art of giving a rosebud massage, penetrating gracefully, and pleasuring the prostate. Practice the strokes taught by master teacher Chester Mainard and watch demonstrations by two real-life couples.

Evolutionary Masturbation

Evolutionary Masturbation for Men
offers 20 innovative strokes and additional ideas to prolong orgasm and enhance pleasure. What part of the male anatomy gets the most touch with the least creativity? If you want to expand what is erotically possible, this class will teach you more than twenty innovative masturbation strokes that awaken self-love, creativity and heightened pleasure. The class also explores cock reflexology, self-massage, solo sex magic, erotic breathing rhythms and prolonging orgasm.

Self Anal Massage

Self Anal Massage
offers explicit video instruction for enhancing your self pleasure to include anal touch. I’ve found that anal touch is a key way to reach full bodied orgasmic states. Watch and learn self-rosebud massage, enlightened prostate massage, and simultaneous anal and genital stimulation. Discover the best positions, toys and dildos to maximize your relaxation and pleasure. Self-anal massage can be important for men’s emotional health, since the anal area is a place where fear is often held. It can also be relaxing, pleasurable and erotic.

Mindful Masturbation

Mindful Masturbation
is a stimulating one-on-one tutorial with a teacher of masturbation, Bruce P. Grether. Bruce speaks directly to you and encourages you to follow along as he demonstrates his style of “Mindful Masturbation.”