Slow Self Erotic Massage

Many men are used to generating erotic pleasure in a few particular ways. When it comes to our solo pleasure, often we are used to only one way. Often that way is what we learned when we were much younger and we haven’t changed our methods since. Think about it, many of us learned about masturbation when we were around 12 through 15 years old. How many of the things that you enjoyed at that age do you continue to enjoy today? Why masturbate the same way?

Slowing things down and savoring can completely change the way we look at solo erotic play. By letting go of expectations and letting go of any particular goal, we can open up to new possibilities.

In this video follow along as I take about 30 minutes to wake up my body erotically. In the video notice that erection isn’t important at all. Also notice that I’m not building erotic energy by speeding things up; rather, I’m building the energy by slowing things down. Traditional orgasm or ejaculation isn’t the focus of this exercise, yet when I am complete my body feels completely at ease and relaxed.

During much of the video I talk about what I’m noticing in my body; my intention is to give men a framework from which to develop their own practice.

Needless to say, this video contains nudity and sexual content. It is not intended for those under 18 nor those who do not wish to view such material.

26 Responses to “Slow Self Erotic Massage”

  1. I thoroughly enjoyed watching this video. You were calm and not frantic about stroking your cock and I sensed the enjoyment you were feeling.
    I have often thought how nice it would be for two men to engage in this…kind of mirror images of one another.
    I’m an older man now and I too enjoy stroking my cock. Cumming is another thing. I’m at that point when, because of ED, I don’t get hard enough to enjoy a jaculation. Now I’m resorting to using a massager which bring me to climax. But I use it slowly so as to enjoy the pleasure it brings.
    I have felt close to you while watching the video and just writing this to you makes me feel the bonding even better.
    If ever you’re interested in doing a mutual sensual erotic massage, let me know. I’d be more than interested! Years ago I trained at the Body Electric with Joe Kramer and still haven’t forgotten that life-changing experience.
    Thanks for reading this. Try to make a few more of those videos as they are truly moving!

    • Hi Raph, Thanks for the comments and I’m glad that the video was helpful for you. I debated adding this video, but I decided to add it because I felt it has educations value and there’s nothing like it anywhere else I’ve seen. I think it’s important for us to unlearn habits and slow down.
      I also like your vision of doing this slow self massage across from another. I’ve done a variation of this as a soft cock massage and it can be quite transformative.
      I will look at making more videos with a message such as this one.


  2. Thanks for your gracious response. What has come to mind also was doing this practice with someone who is looking for a partner to do it with. If you know any older person who would be willing to engage in a mirror type cock massage, would you please suggest he get in touch with me. I appreciate your taking the time to respond.

  3. Hello again,
    I was really taken by your video of slow self erotic massage. Are you open to my visiting and joining you in this experience? There’s much I’d still like to learn and you seem to be someone I could trust and be comfortable with. Thanks for considering what may sound like a bold request.

  4. Browsing thru flash player in my mobile..pls make a way for me to watch this video.. u r absolutely awesome.. Expecting more posts on masturbation and exploring entire body…

    • Thanks and I’m glad that the videos are helpful for you. The video file is not Flash, it’s an m4v format that should play on an iPad; it plays on mine.

  5. it was a lovely lesson.

  6. I found your video truly erotic. You are hot to view. Also like to see a video of two people enjoying mutual erotic gratification. P.S. I gave some moves that will enhance the experience and none of them use anything but the hands.

    • Yes, there are so many ways that two people can connect for conscious erotic fulfillment. I hope to have more videos in the future.

  7. It was an amazing experience to watch you touching yourself and to do just the same as you : touching myself very slowly, moaning, crying, sighing…
    I really felt like you were in person talking to me, seducing me, and taking me far away…
    I watched the video twice in a row. I was with you for an hour. After that, EUPHORIA!

    Thanks for being with me, Ed.

    From Japan

  8. This is so good, Ed. Exactly the kind of video I need to see, and that I look for.Masturbation is such a uniquely joyful. pleasurable, and truth-revealing self-emergent experience for me. I often look for others who know what it’s like to connect the penis to the spirit and it is so rare to find that. I don’t like to compromisingly settle for “stroke porn” but that is alm,ost the onlyu thing which is available. But this video of yours is perfect and extraordinary. I wish you would post much more. You are such a sexy man, but with a genuine sense of the profundity of experience of penis masturbation. This communicates so well in this video.

  9. Terry Parmegiani April 3, 2013 at 7:04 pm Reply

    Thank you for putting this on your website. I learned so much. I like the fact that it is not just a get it over with thing but it is slow and deliberate.

  10. WOW! PLease do another! As soon as I started watching my penis immediately awakened!!!!

  11. which you massage your cock it really turned me on

  12. I didn’t saw any video:/ where is it?

  13. Awesome video, I have. Been wanting to explore more deeper erotic self.massage a truly wonderful experience

  14. i commented before after i watched the video. i want to truly thank you for what you do. this is something i have been searching for for many years, i have never eexperienced this kind of pleasure . i have for as long as i can remember had a deep interest and passion of masturbation and have always searched for more intense self love, i think i have finally found what i have been searching for. i would love to know more about masturbation coaching. iam 49 year old divorced, i love sex of any kind. but self love and deep self genital massage seems to be my calliing. i would love to hear back from you regarding masturbation coaching. thank you

    • Hi and thanks for the kind words! Masturbation coaching is about helping men discover a fulfilling and satisfying masturbation practice. So many of us masturbate just to get off. While the pleasure of orgasm is incredible, there is so much more possible when we masturbate consciously and with intention. Coaching sessions can help us find what’s below that surface!

  15. Thank you for the video, it was wonderful! I just started tantra…I am 66, have some ED, but now do 21 days at a time without ejaculating. I find I can massage my penis for an hour and stay hard and blissful, as you seem to be. I am working on getting close to orgasm and backing off, but have not done that yet. I do feel the bliss in my whole body, though!

  16. Just saw your videos, how you enjoy the beauty of your cock and in all its pleasure, how you ejaculate from your throbbing cock and how your balls tighten, great work , Ozzie guy here, pity not nearer to experince your world

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