Many men are used to generating erotic pleasure in a few particular ways. When it comes to our solo pleasure, often we are used to only one way. Often that way is what we learned when we were much younger and we haven’t changed our methods since. Think about it, many of us learned about masturbation when we were around 12 through 15 years old. How many of the things that you enjoyed at that age do you continue to enjoy today? Why masturbate the same way?
Slowing things down and savoring can completely change the way we look at solo erotic play. By letting go of expectations and letting go of any particular goal, we can open up to new possibilities.
In this video follow along as I take about 30 minutes to wake up my body erotically. In the video notice that erection isn’t important at all. Also notice that I’m not building erotic energy by speeding things up; rather, I’m building the energy by slowing things down. Traditional orgasm or ejaculation isn’t the focus of this exercise, yet when I am complete my body feels completely at ease and relaxed.
During much of the video I talk about what I’m noticing in my body; my intention is to give men a framework from which to develop their own practice.
Needless to say, this video contains nudity and sexual content. It is not intended for those under 18 nor those who do not wish to view such material.