Tag Archives: erotic living


I hear from guys concerned about the risks of sexually transmitted infections (sti’s.) Yes, sti’s are real and the risk can very from a minor nuisance to a chronic condition that affects you for the rest of your life. There’s so much wrapped up in any discussion of sti’s since the way we discuss these […]

Real Connection

I’ve run into many guys lately spending a lot of time in various forms of online relationships. I’ve said to almost all of them that I really don’t understand the preoccupation we’re having with online relationships. Really, how many times can I say hello to someone I don’t know on Grindr or Skruff? I’ve never […]

Race to the Bottom

Just when I thought it couldn’t get any more insane. I usually don’t get too political here, but I can’t can’t stay silent any longer about the craziness coming from the Republicans. Over the last several weeks we’ve seen these wonderful ideas coming from the GOP regarding our sexual freedoms: The “Blunt amendment” was a […]

Eyes Closed


Vision is so overrated. OK, not really, but many guys take in proportionately more from our visual sense than the other senses when it comes to our erotic lives. Just look at how much most of us look at porn. I hardly ever meet someone who doesn’t watch something while masturbating. What would it be […]

It’s a Boy!

Masculinity is so hard to define. Yet, when I experience it or see it the feeling is so palpable. Perhaps it’s a reflection of my own issues with my dad, but the Daddy/boy relationship has had a particular strong draw on me. The intensity of a strong, protective daddy coupled with an adoring boy combines […]


Recently while relaxing in a hot tub after a long day, I encountered a young man really wanting an erotic connection. He was aggressively flirting with me and the other men in the water. While sex in or around the water would have been OK, it wasn’t an explicitly sexual place. I couldn’t help but […]

July Newsletter

We are afraid of sex. Everywhere I turn I see a culture that is afraid of bodily pleasure. We can’t talk about sex. We can’t ensure that children have a healthy perspective toward sex. We can’t communicate desires. We mostly ignore sex and hope that it all just goes away. The only exception is when […]

Fear of Male Sexuality

Why are there so few real discussions on men’s sexuality? Turn on Oprah, or for that matter almost any television show. It’s commonplace to see a discussion with women on sexuality. Women are talking about all aspects of their sexuality – everything from relationships to vibrators to some pretty kinky stuff. Where are the men? […]

Conscious Eros

Conscious Eros “Success isn’t the result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire.” I saw this on a t-shirt someone was wearing at O’Hare airport while I was changing planes over the weekend. I was coming back from Easton Mountain where I was part of an amazing team of men leading a week […]

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