What’s Love got to do with it?

I’m in the midst of NRE (new relationship energy!) We’re 3 months into it and at that point where we’ve established mutuality; we’re really enjoying each others’ company and mutual exploration. I’m also happy that I’m seeing that I’ve actually matured a bit and have learned a thing or two that’s helping with all this […]

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Masturbation Retreat Coming May 2017


Imagine spending a weekend in a beautiful secluded retreat setting in Northern California – enjoying the fresh air, the tall trees, the inviting pond, the sun, and the stars. Now imagine that you are part of a community of erotic explorers committed to helping each other find fulfillment in their own solo pleasure practice. Top […]

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Am I Good Enough?

One of the most common concerns men have is a variation on “Am I good enough.” This gets reinforced for many of us when younger by our often mistaken notions of what is masculinity. We’re constantly trying to measure up to some, often undefined, ideal. When I was a young boy I clearly got the […]

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Sex Magic

So far 2014 has been a year of change. I welcome much of this change, but any change requires destruction and that destruction can make me nervous. As this past week has brought a crescendo of potential changes into my life. I see that these changes have potential to bring a lot of answers to […]

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Toxic Masculinity


I just wrote about masks several days ago and this morning I read about a Kickstarter campaign for a documentary on how we’re failing our boys. I find this documentary fascinating because I have yet to see a good definition of what masculinity is. Yet, I’ve experienced when I’ve fallen short of that definition throughout […]

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Faerie Wisdom


I just returned from 10 days with the Radical Faeries celebrating Beltane. This was my first Beltane celebration and my first extended experience with the Faeries. The entire experience unfolded rather quickly. I wasn’t planning on going until, almost at the last minute, the opportunity presented itself and I was on my way. I’m still going through […]

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(Mis)Adventures in Polyamory

I haven’t been monogamous in decades. I tried it and realized that monogamy doesn’t work for me. I find that sex with multiple people opens my horizons and provides me with more diverse sexual experiences and more opportunities for sexual exploration that I would get by restricting my encounters to only one person. I’m very experienced at non-monogamy. […]

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Fear and Control

We live in a culture dripping with fear. During Kinky Camp several of the men requested that their names not be public during the event. While I understand and respect their need for discretion, I was struck by the fact that they actually need this discretion. It is absolutely ridiculous that in 2012 someone’s job […]

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